I is for Insensitive

When I found out my first husband was cheating on me and my marriage/life fell apart there were many people who stepped up and helped me keep it together - my parents, first and foremost, as well as friends and family.

There was also music. America by Simon and Garfunkel, as I veered down a new path in life. You Oughta Know by Alannis Morrisette, screamed at the top of my lungs, repeatedly, until it felt like my throat was bleeding.

And Jann Arden.

Beautiful, funny, middle-aged, quirky Jann Arden, the Canadian singer-songwriter who invented angst and whose songs are an anthem for anyone suffering from acute lack of self-confidence.

It's a wonder I didn't wear out her 'Greatest Hurts' CD, that's how much I played it. I knew every song by heart, every word, every note. Through one of the hardest times in my life, Jann was there for me and I loved her fierce.

Insensitive is one of her best and it's good listening on a rainy Monday morning when you're alone with your thoughts and your bitter coffee is growing cold.






How do you cool your lips
After a summer’s kiss
How do you rid the sweat
After the body bliss
How do you turn your eyes
From the romantic glare
How do you block the sound
Of a voice you’d know anywhere

Oh, I really should have known
By the time you drove me home
By the vagueness in your eyes
Your casual good-byes
By the chill in your embrace
The expression on your face
That told me
Maybe you might have some advice to give
On how to be
Insensitive
Insensitive
Insensitive

How do you numb your skin
After the warmest touch
How do you slow your blood
After the body rush
How do you free your soul
After you’ve found a friend
How do you teach your heart
It’s a crime to fall in love again

Oh, you probably won’t remember me
It’s probably ancient history
I’m one of the chosen few
Who went ahead and fell for you
I’m out of hope, I’m out of touch
I fell too fast, I feel too much
I thought that you might have
Some advice to give on how to be
Insensitive
I really should have known
By the time you drove me home
By the vagueness in your eyes
Your casual good-byes
By the chill in your embrace
The expression on your face
That told me
Maybe You might have some advice to give
On how to be
Insensitive
Insensitive
Insensitive



P.S. Tomorrow I'm posting the winners from my Damned Door Contest - today's your last chance to get your guesses in! Believe me, even your wildest guesses could do you in good stead. Go ahead! Guess! You could win some fine Life on the Muskoka River bling! Details here.

H is for Harriet the Spy

My friend Mark will be like, I knew she was gonna do Harriet.

Because I am Harriet-obsessed. Not obsessed like people who have entire Harriet websites or wear round-ass Harriet glasses, or who eat tomato sandwiches Every. Single. Day.

Louise Fitzhugh

Not a Harriet-stalker by any means, I do, however, have a certain fondness for Louise Fitzhugh's most famous literary heroine, an obnoxious tweenager who fills her notebook with everything about everyone. Fitzhugh published Harriet the Spy in 1964 and I must have picked it up in 1970-71. I was a voracious reader back in the day, partial to Nancy Drew, The Black Stallion and any piece of crap that was hanging around the house. I read ketchup bottle labels, billboards and street signs. I could not pee without having something to read, even if that meant the back of a shampoo bottle I'd already read 400 times.

Then one day I found Harriet the Spy at Markham Public Library and my life changed.

Harriet

This girl, this Harriet, was me.

She was smart and smart-mouthed, stubborn and funny, and there was nothing cute about her. In fact, she was nothing at all like she was portrayed in the terrible movies Hollywood produced. Forget there was ever movies made about Harriet – they're that awful and stupid.

The book, though, was something an 11-year-old girl might fall in love with. I know I did. Just ask my friend Mark. Before you could say "tomato sandwich," me and Mark were forming Spies Incorporated, the best club I ever belonged to, in which members assumed cool spy names, started spying on people in the neighbourhood and then circulating reports to fellow members. 

I was the Wacky Spy, the president, the ringleader. Pretty soon we had a comfortable quota of kid members, including my cousin Kelly and Mark's little brother, and we started recruiting spies from the realm of famous people. I sent letters to the Prime Minister, our local Member of Parliament, the disc jockey from Toronto's popular am radio station and even the Guess Who, asking if they would join. I think I still have the letter I got back from Prime Minister Pierre Elliott Trudeau's office, saying it was nice that boys and girls had clubs they were interested in and thanks for the offer but the Prime Minister was a little too busy running the country to be a spy. Yeah, well... whatever... we carried on without Pierre for about a year or so before I discovered boys and our enthusiasm waned.

I picked up Harriet the Spy a while ago and it was still a good book. Never mind that it was written in the 1960s. Never mind I'm far from being a kid. It's still, as far as I'm concerned, far and away one of the best children's books ever written.

Whenever I run into a writer of young adult fiction I ask, "Have you read Harriet the Spy?" and I'm always surprised when they say no. Here's an excerpt from one of my favourite books of all time. Hopefully it's enough to make you say, "yes."

From Harriet the Spy by Louise Fitzhugh

It was time for her cake and milk. Every day at three-forty she had cake and milk. Harriet loved doing everything every day in the same way.

“Time for my cake, for my cake and milk, time for my milk and cake.” She ran yelling through the front door of her house. She ran through the front hall past the dining room and the living room and down the steps into the kitchen. There she ran smack into the cook.

“Like a missile you are, shot from that school,” screamed the cook.

“Hello cook, hello, cooky, hello, hello, hello, hello,” sang Harriet. Then she opened her notebook and wrote:

BLAH, BLAH, BLAH. I ALWAYS DO CARRY ON A LOT. ONCE OLE GOLLY SAID TO ME, “I COULD NEVER LOSE YOU IN A CROWD, I’D JUST FOLLOW THE SOUND OF YOUR VOICE.”

She slammed the notebook and the cook jumped. Harriet laughed.

The cook put the cake and milk in front of her. “What you always writing in that dad-blamed book for?” she asked with a sour little face.

“Because,” Harriet said around a bite of cake, “I’m a spy.”

“Spy, huh. Some spy.”

“I am a spy. I’m a good spy, too. I’ve never been caught.”

Cook settled herself with a cup of coffee. “How long you been a spy?”

“Since I could write. Ole Golly told me if I was going to be a writer I better write down everything, so I’m a spy that writes down everything.”

“Hmmmmmmph.” Harriet knew the cook couldn’t think of anything to say when she did that.

“I know all about you.”

“Like fun, you do.” The cook looked startled.

“I do too. I know you live with your sister in Brooklyn and that she might get married and you wish you had a car and you have a so that’s no good and drinks.”

“What do you do, child? Listen at doors?”

“Yes,” said Harriet.

“Well, I never,” said the cook. “I think that’s bad manners.”

“Ole Golly doesn’t. Ole Golly says find out everything you can cause life is hard enough even if you know a lot.”

“I bet she don’t know you spooking round the house listening at doors.”

“Well, how am I supposed to find out anything?”

“I don’t know” — the cook shook her head — “I don’t know about that Ole Golly.”

“What do you mean?” Harriet felt apprehensive.

“I don’t know. I just don’t know. I wonder about her.”

Ole Golly came into the room. “What is it you don’t know?”

Cook looked as though she might hide under the table. She stood up. “Can I get you your tea, Miss Golly?” she said meekly.

“That would be most kind of you,” said Ole Golly and sat down.

Harriet opened her notebook:

I WONDER WHAT THAT WAS ALL ABOUT. MAYBE OLE GOLLY KNOWS SOMETHING ABOUT COOK THAT COOK DOESN’T WANT HER TO KNOW. CHECK ON THIS.

“What do you have in school this year, Harriet?” asked Ole Golly.

“English, History, Geography, French, Math, ugh, Science, ugh, and the Performing Arts, ugh, ugh, ugh.” Harriet rattled these off in a very bored way.

“What history?”

“Greeks and Romans, ugh, ugh, ugh.”

“They’re fascinating.”

“What?”

“They are. Just wait, you’ll see. Talk about spies. Those gods spied on everybody all the time.”

“Yeah?”

“‘Yes’, Harriet, not ‘yeah’.”

“Well, I wish I’d never heard of them.”

“Ah, there’s a thought from Aesop for you: ‘We would often be sorry if our wishes were gratified.’” Ole Golly gave a little moo of satisfaction after she had delivered herself of this.

“I think I’ll go now,” Harriet said.

“Yes,” said the cook, “go out and play.”

Harriet stood up. “I do not go out to PLAY, I go out to WORK!” and in as dignified a way as possible she walked from the room and up the steps from the kitchen.

Louise Fitzhugh, who died in 1974 at the age of 46, also drew all the characters for Harriet. These drawings are every bit as wonderful as the book itself. Here's a collection of my favourites:

Harrison, a guy in the neighbourhood

Janie, Harriet's mad scientist friend

Joe Curry, who worked at a grocery store

Mrs. Golly, Ole Golly's mom

Harriet's socialite mom

Ole Golly, Harriet's nanny

Rachel, a weird kid at school

G is for Good Dog!

I thought it might be easier to post a video of my dog than to actually write something.
Three-and-a-half-(sigh)-hours later, I have my first You Tube clip. It's neither cute nor funny and there is an exorbitantly long shot of my floor that is waiting for a winning lottery ticket and salvation. I could have written a really good story in three and a half hours.
Instead, there is a this:




Happy Friday, everyone!
And make sure you enter my Damned Door Contest - it closes on Monday.

F is for Fabulous

Remember Jill Latendre?
How could you forget?
Two days before she underwent a double mastectomy, Jill had a farewell party for her breasts. And what a terrific party it turned out to be.
There was a capacity crowd at the Burk's Falls Legion with dancing and laughter and great food – and more than $4,000 raised for the Canadian Cancer Society.
Yesterday I received an e-mail from Mizz Jill and, since so many of you commented on her bravery and sent her good wishes, I thought I'd share her message with you:

Hi! Cathy

It has been 2 weeks since my surgery; it has not been all that much fun I
can tell you honestly a whole lot of pain. But people like you make it much
more bearable. This is my 1st day back in the office & I finally got a
chance to read your blog, it is amazing. I did not know what a blog was when
you asked me if you could run my story. Your comments touched my heart like
you can not believe & comments from others are melting my heart. I tried to
comment back, but my skills are limited on a computer so don't know if it
even went through. I truly thank you for your kindness & wonderful words.
all my Love Jillxoxoxo

In case you're wondering how Jill fits in with the A-Z Blogging Challenge? Just look her up in the dictionary. You'll find her picture next to the word "Fabulous."

***

P.S. Don't forget to get your guesses in for my Damned Door Contest. You could win some FABULOUS prizes! Details are here.

P.S.S. Speaking of the F-word, OMG, you have to go to Alan W. Davidson's blog, Conversations From Land's Edge, and see the unseemly photo of him in his FEZ. I had a stomach-altering guffaw looking at that man's picture. He just cracks me up.

E is for EW!

Stealth weather dropped us a white bomb overnight dashing all our hopes for an early spring. There is only one word for today and it starts with E.

***

By the way, make sure you go to yesterday's post, 'D is for Doors,' and enter my Damn Doors Contest. It's easy-peasy and you could win cool Life on the Muskoka River bling.