Monday, July 26, 2010
WAIT! Come back, fellas, it's OK!
It's still me, Cathy O, writer of flash fiction, user of F-bombs, your compadre, your pal - don't let all this nasty pink & blue bride stuff fool ya, it's me!
Sit down, ok? Pull up a chair. Pour yourself some joe, or grab a beer. Whatever turns your crank.
Comfy? Need some bug spray or something? Good. I was afraid that my new bridezilla look might turn off a few of my regular blogging buds. Pink isn't necessarily their style. But, for the next two months, it's totally my style!
That's right. Only TWO MONTHS until my wedding day!
Man, I never thought I'd be doing this at my age.
A couple weeks shy of my 50th birthday - yes, I'm that freakin' old - I will be tying yet another knot. Apparently the first knot wasn't tied properly. Something about a hardware cutie that had a knack for knots. I was devastated for a while. After nearly 19 years of marriage I figured I was in it for the long haul. But he had other plans. C'est la vie.
Turns out he did me the biggest favour in the history of favours. If it wasn't for him dumping my sweet ass I never would have met David Cory Webster, who truly is a knight in shining armour. Really, he is. Everyone loves him. My mom loves him - I suspect more than me. My boys love him - even though they call him Bootcamp. The girls at work love him - he fixes their cars and brings complimentary coffee and Ice Caps in for them. Even our favourite lesbian friends are reconsidering their life choices.
He's that good.
But enough about Dave the Conqueror for now. Trust me, I'll be waxing plenty about him in the days to come.
First thing's first, though. Let me assure you this is not becoming a wedding blog. Well, not completely. I want to write all the things I always write about. A bit of fiction, a bit of whining; ok, a lot of whining. The regular stuff. But I also want to make a big deal out of my Big Day.
Funny, you know, getting married a second time. I definitely don't want anywhere near as big a 'do' as the first one was. Everything will be pared down; simpler. At the same time, it's still a very big deal for me and Dave and, most of the time, time passes with very little mention of our plans. Sure, me and Dave talk about it. But it's not like we're young kids anymore. There's no showers, or stags, or family meetings, or ... anything, really. It's all very quiet and simple. And that's the way I want it.
It's just ... well... every once in a while I see a big deal made out of other people's weddings and I get that little glitch in my chest, the one that says, "Hey! I'm getting married, too!"
Dave says he doesn't care about anything. "Just as long as there's you and me and the minister, that's all I care."
Sigh. Told you he was adorable.
So, if there isn't a big deal being made in my real life, I at least want to make a big deal in blogland. Cause if I'm not gonna crow about it, who the heck is?
You, dear, sweet reader, are personally invited to share in my happiness. Why? Because I really like you. I want you involved some way ... y'know, other than wearing a pink, frothy dress.
This is how I want you to help.
I want you to share with me your happiest or funniest wedding moments. And send me a picture! Preferably a happy or funny picture!
This isn't a contest. There's no prize. I just want to spread some love around this old planet. I want to share your bliss.
I don't care if you've been married for 40 years or six months.
I don't care if you're divorced or your spouse has passed away. (Well, I do care... and I'm honestly sorry about your loss.)
I don't even care if you've never been married - surely you have a great pix of you wearing a tacky ugly bridesmaid dress, or getting drunk at your sister's wedding, or something!
If you've got wedding advice, send it!
If you've got ideas or recommendations, send it!
I want this to be a big bridal palooza, a festival of wedding-ness, a celebration of happiness and love, love, love.
For those who have taken the plunge, make sure you tell me what your "first song" was and I'll try to post a clip from youtube.
Oh, this is so exciting, isn't it?
Join me, please, in what surely is one of the happiest times of my life.
Share a smile, share a story, share some love!
Questions? Submissions? Send it here to Love Central.
I can hardly wait to hear from you! In the meantime, big kisses and hugs!