Wednesday, November 28, 2012

I've got a new blog! Say hello to Separation Advice

One of the reasons I wrote Weezie Polk's Man Lessons was to help people, particularly women, as they stumble through the hallowed hell of separation and divorce.

In the book, Weezie sets up a blog with advice for the lovelorn and I thought, well, if Weezie can do it, so can I!

Welcome to Separation Advice.

I've been through a lot on this current road to happiness. I've lost and I've gained and life has basically been rebooted. Overall, I like where I am now but, lordy, lordy, it sure was a tough old go getting to this point.

As a result, I have a lot of advice for folks going through the same thing. It's all basic stuff, but it's stuff nobody warned me about and it's stuff I want to share with you, so you can avoid unnecessary heartache in the very painful segue between unhappily married to happily ever after.

I don't want Separation Advice to be all about me, though. I want stories from all my unmarried friends. If there's advice you want to share, or something you want to warn people about, or if you just want to vent and cry, by all means, come here. Together we can get through this. We can, I promise. Because even though it seems like your life is over, it is honestly just beginning.

Drop by for a visit, give me a follow if you feel like it and, if you want to help spread the word, I'd adore you forever.

HA! Don't you just get the heebie-jeebies whenever somebody promises you "forever?"

26 comments:

  1. Since there is no such thing as 'forever' except as it pertains to the nothingness that stretches out before you after death, yes, I wonder just how long they REALLY mean. I guess some marriages feel like that eh lol?

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    1. HA! You betcha, Delores. But some are really nice, too! :)

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    2. Relationship dynamics change all the time, which I think is part of the reason why the promise of forever is hard to maintain. Every moment, every decision, every crossroads that we come upon; these factors and more can influence us, especially in those make or break moments. Writing is definitely one place where strength can be drawn upon to make more of those moments makes rather than breaks.

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  2. Good luck with your new venture. The only thing I know is you try hard and, in the end, you need to make choices that make you happy. I wish we could sit down for lunch sometime. I feel like we'd have some really interesting conversation.

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    1. I would love to have lunch with you, too. Wouldn't it be great?? I always think bloggy friends are the best friends you never meet!

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  3. I'm sure I'll drop by Seperation Advice for some lurking. I can tend to be a bit "real" - interpret that as "jaded" - having gone through "I promise you forever" only to find out it meant "I promise you for the time that the chemicals and hormones were going all crazy in the right places but now I'm over it."

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    1. Excellent "lurking," Angela! So glad you dropped by!

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  4. And I'm sure you will get a great response! That's a very thoughtful thing to do for others, Cathy.

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    1. Thanks, Alex. It's a funny thing - everyone comes to your wedding, but when everything falls apart you mostly cry alone.

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  5. I will definitely check it out. I'm interested in it from the family law point of view, which I did for the better part of 20 years on the west coast. I've seen/heard it all. I divorced Brian amicably and quickly,but my love went thru a bitter and acrimonious breakup, with 3 children, and years of conflict with her.

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    1. I'd love for you to do some guest posts from time to time with your family law advice. I'm sure you've heard it all!

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  6. PS Where do I sign up to follow it so that the updates are on my dashboard?

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    1. There's a black bar on the right hand side. Hover over it and something that looks like a paw print will appear (I think it's supposed to be people). That's the follow button. Weird, huh?

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  7. Glad that you've started this enterprise. Could be a valuable source of info for many. Not for me (hopefully); 43 years married, and counting.

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  8. Congratulations, Rob!!! 43 years is AWESOME!!!!

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  9. Sadly - this is much needed. My partner and I (we have not married) have been together for 35 years (I think). Sometimes it feels like forever - for both of us. And we would have got less for murder. A thought which has crossed my mind.

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    1. Oh goodness! There's a thought: "We would have got less for murder." Now THERE'S a story! Holy doodles, EC!!!!

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    2. A thought which has crossed your mind, hmmm?

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  10. You certainly have found the right life. A proper person to run a long discussion on separation and moving on! And this comes from someone who's sworn on love entirely.

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  12. Good luck with the new Web site! I'm sure you will help a lot of people seeking advice and support.

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